It seems that being the "nice girl" at work is the only way for new recruits to integrate into the groups— everyone gravitates toward you because you're always trying to please other people. However, in terms of getting what you want in your career and having your career progress at the rate you want it to, being too "nice" might hinder you. But the fact is, if you spend your life making other people comfortable, you may feel good, but you're not going to get what you really want."
在办公室里做个“乖乖女”似乎是广大女性融入职场的必经之路。这样的你会获得良好的人缘，总是尽力取悦别人。然而，考虑到你对职业发展的期望和对职业发展速度的渴求，表现得太过nice恐怕反而会妨碍你平步青云。然而事实告诉我们，假如你一辈子都花在如何让别人感到更舒适上，你或许会感觉很好，但你很难得到你真正想要的东西”。

Here are some tips for women to drop the "nice" act:
以下就是小编为 “乖乖女”们整理的友情提示：

1.Don't Say Yes All the Time: Pick and choose what you'll say yes to, and be sure to "manage people's expectations" by stating your limitations about the project and what you'll realistically be able to get done. Knowing how to say “No” is an art.
不要总是点头：选一些你会说“好”的事情，学会“控制人们的期望”，你需要列举出你对于这个项目能做到的极限，以及你实际有能力做到的事情。懂得拒绝也是一门学问。

2.Don't bear all things by yourself: If you have cultivated a great network and relationships, don't feel bad about reaching out to someone for help. Many "nice girls" feel bad asking others for help, but they need to get over that and take advantage of the relationships they worked hard to build.
不要一个人死撑：假如你培养了良好的人脉和人际关系，不要觉得找别人帮忙是件坏事。很多“乖乖女”会觉得让别人帮忙不好，但她们必须跨过这道坎，才能更好地利用她们精心建立起的人脉。

3.Don’t use redundant words: Instead of talking too much, try to make your messages succinct and to the point. Frankel says, "Women tend to use more words than men because they either feel as if they have to compensate for something or prove themselves." Use less words and gestures. Be sure to be mindful of filler words such as "like" and "uh-huh" as well.
不要说废话：与其说太多话，不如试着让你的语言更简练并且切中要害。弗兰克说，“女人们总是倾向于使用更多的语言，那是因为她们认为她们需要弥补一些东西，或是证明她们的观点。”你应该减少你的语言和动作。为了表现得更有思想，你也需要停止使用诸如“貌似”或是 “唔-额”这样的词语。

4.Don’t make fake agreement: Pretending to agree while expressing the opposite point of view is not a good idea.

The typical sentence could be “I'm with you… but I just don’t think we should take on that project.” In reality you aren't really with me because then you would agree with what I’m saying. Don’t try to couch a different opinion inside a warm and fuzzy Fake Agreement. If you disagree, just say so professionally.

假装认同别人的同时却表现出相反的观点可不是个好主意。
这种经典的语句有：“我很赞同你的观点……不过我不认为我们应该采用那个项目。”事实是你根本不同意我，因为不管我说什么你都会说你同意。
不要试着把不同的意见硬装在一句友善的、模棱两可的赞同中。你要是不同意，就直接正式地说出来。

5. Avoid the false uncertainty: Stop pretending you’re not sure when in fact you really are.
Typical usage: “You know, when I think about it... I’m not so sure shutting down that facility isn’t the best option after all.” Oh, you’re sure; you’re just trying to create buy-in or a sense of inclusion by pretending you still have an open mind… or you’re planting seeds for something you know you will eventually do. Never say you aren’t sure unless you really aren't sure... and are truly willing to consider other viewpoints.
不要假装不确定：，如果你非常确定，不要假装你对某件事不确定。
经典语句：“你知道，当我仔细思考的时候……我不确定把那个工厂关掉是不是最好的选择。”
噢，你根本就知道啊；你这只是为了假装你仍然觉得模棱两可罢了……或者你正在为你知道你最终会做的某件事情埋下伏笔而已。
只要你不是真的不确定，而且真的愿意考虑其他人的想法，就永远都别说不确定……

6. Don’t draw unsupported closure: Never ending a discussion or making a decision without backup or solid justification.
不要做出缺乏支持和有力证据的总结或决定。

The Unsupported Closure is the go-to move for people who want something a certain way and cannot or do not feel like explaining why. Whenever you feel one coming on, take a deep breath and start over; otherwise you’ll spout inane platitudes instead of objective reasons that may actually help your employees get behind your decision.
这种缺乏支持的结束语是说话人的一种强迫他人接受的说法。他希望某件事要以某种方式发展，但却无法或是不愿解释为什么。每当你想到一个什么点子的时候，最好作个深呼吸然后开始讲述；不然你只会吐出大量毫无意义的陈词滥调，而不是能够帮到雇员们理解你的决定的那些客观原因。