又到了年底公司开年会、部门搞聚餐的时间。一想到又要碰到严厉的老板、合不来的同事、和略显尴尬的陌生人，真想自己静一静。不喜欢被动社交？来看看这几个谈话小技巧，教你如何得体应对各种场合。

 

英国萨里郡商务指导丽莎-约翰逊说，不要总觉得公司聚会单调乏味，如果你提前准备好应对之道，这其实能成为一次有益的职场社交机会。 她向每日邮报网站女性版的读者们分享了在聚会上与老板、陌生人和其他参与者交流的技巧，我们也来学一学。

 

THE SILENT COMPETITION

沉默的竞争

 

Do you have a competitive colleague who usually keeps you at arm's length?

你是否有个和你有竞争关系，平时很疏远你的同事？

 

Asking engaging questions is by far the best approach here. How about asking why they decided to attend or what they're looking forward to that week?

问一些有关参加聚会的问题最好不过了。比如，问问对方为什么决定参加？或者那一周有什么期待？

 

Keep things short and sweet and don't fall into the trap of talking too much. Sometimes it is wise to mirror the other person's pace of conversation.

对话要简洁明了，千万不要说太多。谈话节奏跟着对方来是很聪明的做法。

 

 If you are met with out and out silence, then at least you've tried. Never feel awkward about silence, conversation is a two-way street but it helps to have some conversation points prepared in case. 如果遇到冷场，那至少你已经尝试过了。不要对冷场感到尴尬，谈话是双向沟通，但提前准备好想说的话很管用。

 

THE STRANGER

 陌生人

 In large companies you might find yourself thrown together with people you've never met or barely spoken to before. 在大公司里，你会发现自己在聚会上遇到了陌生同事，或者几乎没说过话的同事。

 

 It may sound obvious but introduce yourself really clearly, ask their name and repeat it often to have a better chance of remembering it.

当然要清楚地介绍自己，询问对方的姓名并重复一遍，这样才能记得更牢。

 

 Although it can, and often does sound a little awkward at first, once you're over this molehill the conversation will flow much better

. 尽管最初常常略显尴尬，但随后你们的交谈就会更顺畅。

 

 Smiling through the conversation will put the other person at ease and it'll make them feel comfortable and realise that you are actually interested in what they are saying. You should always make eye contact too. Remember that they may be just as nervous as you too, so there's never a real need to worry.

交谈时面带微笑能让对方更放松。这让对方感到舒服，觉得你真的对他们所说的感兴趣。经常保持目光接触。记住，他们可能和你一样紧张，所以没什么可担心的。

 

YOUR BOSS 老板

 If you're in a social situation with your boss, keep it casual and don't get into work conversations at a party.

 如果和老板凑在了一起，要随意，不要在派对上谈工作。

 

Stay respectful though and don't approach if intoxicated – especially if you have issues you want to air – alcohol will act as a truth serum that you'll regret. 保持尊敬，如果醉酒了不要离老板太近，特别是当你有问题想和老板说时。酒后吐真言，但你会后悔。

 

 But above all be yourself. Don't feel you have to stay overly formal just because it's your boss. All bosses are just people too.

但最重要的还是做你自己。不要因为对方是老板就过度拘谨。老板也是凡人。